my girlfriend is dragging me down

I have high blood pressure because of her. But I really just wanted to Thank You for your post. And one last thing, she really wants to be again successful, beautiful, smart, witty, and attractive for you more than anything else. I can know no one would have got solution. Ive got a life, I want to be happy, to love, I am strong, I am bold, and I cant seem like to help her anymore, she doesnt want to, shes just getting away from me, Im losing her. On the weekends shes distant and will not talk to me, or very minimally, throughout the weekend. Breaking up is my last option but a considerable option because the fact that she is just not paying attention to me, everything is about her and her thoughts only. Like i texted her after an hour or two and she read some of them. She thinks I must be sleeping with someone else & she is not the object of my desire. And before you know it has someone paying for half or all of her bills. You took a leap when you wrote in with your question. Stress can cause all sorts of problems. Maybe she doesnt want to tell you how much she wants you to be with her because she doesnt want to appear needy. 3. Everyday is a battle. We r loving since 5-6 years! Please fill out all required fields to submit your message. when there is more unhappy than happy, its a problem and thats what we are going through. So what am I to her now?? Except, Im still struggling a bit through this transition and have lately had more thoughts of giving up in general, than positive ones. I am opinionated and very understanding. Obviously it isnt making her any happier as things are.. Lately she has been responding to me uncaringly and uninterested. I asked a lot of questions to learn what the problem is, all she says that everything collapses to her. His moods got worse, we have to do whatever he wants to do, I am too scared to loose him but Ive already lost myself, I dont recognise myself anymore I was once this girl who didnt need anyone, kept everything to herself, let medication deal with my emotions now I sit and cry myself to sleep and feel so hopeless. I have been with my girlfriend long distance for over a year now. We had went there to plan for an engagement, but all she had for us was a rejection, simply because I don't own a house. Ad by TruthFinder Have you ever googled yourself? 6. Im having this problem with my depressed gf too who I have been in a relationship with for almost 6 months now but lately, she changed from being caring to cold and selfish and I didnt do anything to anger her and treated her wth utmost care and lots of love since the beginning of our relationship. Gently but strongly. Like you rejecting the last possible form of understanding and connection. Should I just except it and appreciate the five minutes we talk a day? But youre so young and its not very obvious but so many people go through this at some point in their lives because life truly is pretty messed up. Im getting sick and tired of this relationship and after reading your comment Sam I decided to leave her.. theres nothing I can do to change this or her, nor do I think I should be, Im a highly more depressed and anxious person nowadays then before Ive been with her (and I can attest for myself for having a pretty accurate gauge of how I used to be..) My Friend Is Draining Me! Our arguments are born out of nothing, she wants me to do as she wishes and doesnt believe in personal space, family commitments, having ambitions and achievoing dreams. I agreed but this has left me with nothing to do, leaving my friends was a massive mistake! There has to be a time limit of when to say enough is enough. But I just dont know anymore. and the thing with sex: if you are curious and want to understand: He left 6 months ago when I asked him to leave for my sake not his after I was signed off work with depression there was no support for me and because of his lack of attitude with dealing day to day. Should I leave her be and wait for her to consult me? Good luck and remember the love bit. I strongly encourage you to begin your own therapy. Now dont get me wrong, I get shes depressed and I feel for her, but I used to never have outbursts in my relationship period, and by now, 8 years in, the only way to make her stop taking all of her aggressive-depression(not that shed get violent, but yell on the most absurd things)/anxieties on me is to stoop down to her level and shout back, which then makes me feel like a jerk, she (almost) never say sorry, and for everytime she yells at me, somehow at the end I have to apologize or shell frown at me forever (claiming everything is fine, but obviously is it) Everything is about your partner. "Trust is lost and conflict often results in anger and finger pointing." We dont really have many, if any, moments of romance anymore. You have to start working on it, push things forward. After everything I did, I have been there every single day, sharing my life with her, and pushing her away from this disease. If the answer is yes, talk with your partner ASAP. all of our arguments come from her depression and her being in a bad mood, i can only sometimes cheer her up. So if your partner isn't pulling his or her weight, you may find yourself feeling like giving up. Please know there is hope, and help is available. I let things change for the negative and even though my instinct knew something was wrong I stuck with it because I am loyal and felt love on a certain level that I thought was worth considering. We had a lot of fun together and while she did have some mental health issues, it never caused too many problems. And it started to bring me down even more. I only have time to look at primary materials and not much more, and sometimes I wait until she has gone to sleep so I can read in peace. It just makes me feel worse, plus medication takes 63-64 days to actually kick in. The fact that shes still hanging around him enforces that theyve cheated. But she wouldnt want to talk some nights. Look man its getting to the point where youre gunna have to tell some form of authority, whether it be the police or something else either way, shes gunna bring you down if nothing changes and youll become just like her in a flash. I have a feeling I might just kill myself if this goes on. The more. Ask yourself if you truly want to continue in the relationship. She will need manpower to make the move happen. Theres a lot of pain in watching someone else you love give up on their own life, be unhappy about decisions they made and wonder why the relationship is falling apart when theyve manipulated your emotions by hurting u, breaking up with you so many times and not having anything positive to say on any problem you or they have,together or singularly. To go cold turkey off 3 different anti depressants can someone die by doing that? I Feel Helpless! Smoking and drinking! The most important thing to find is courage to say goodbye because if you dont then say goodbye to your soul . Second, if nothing changes over time let it go. I am a twenty year old student. Things are never as simple as you think. Its hell and theres a lot of doubt in your thoughts like is it my fault, Im I the same, can I not make someone happy, am i insensitive. She did not want to fight, and when I thought finally thing would become better, she just said that she did not have time or energy to focus on the relationship, and wanted to focus on herself. I started to feel distant from her and that i dont want to be intimat to her. We started dating and since after 2 months shes been depressed. I feel like she is using me even though I take care of her. Im not sure whats going on but I let her know constructively that I considered leaving her I know its harsh but it was a reality check. When the relationship isn't secure, however, you might feel this nagging sense of jealousy towards everything and everyone. We do talk through alot of things and have a somewhat open dialogue, but I still feel resentful and angry when i feel shes not there for me, something i dont seem to get over, despite wanting to. You create your own reality. I deserve happiness, everyone does! Its killing me inside as she looks so helpless, vulnerable, alone and she has the face of one of the most beautiful girls you would ever meet. Me being there, and supporting this whole time didnt count for anything. Day in or out, shell leave me broken again, I know it, just dont know when. Its been 8 months and Im already afraid of how she might self destruct if I tried to end the relationship. I lost my faith in myself, in my abilities, in my attractiveness, I also lost my job because I was physically sick because of stress. (Not married) About me and my girlfriend! So tell someone, it wont just save her life, but also yours. Whatever the reason may be (unresolved conflicts, lack of trust, etc. Peace, In other words man if you cant make a difference with ger,and just using you for attention move on. I also have depression. There is more to life than this, trust me. I didt wanted help, I didnt wanted to tell people how sad I am (and that I dont know why) to anyone. Offer to help her move large pieces of furniture and boxes to her new space. a) Conversation Let her try and fix that. Can still manage to go to pool every Tuesday night til 2am. That left me with a perspective of loosing someone I really love and also left space for me to think about it in safe environment. Life is too short to waste time and energy on depressed people. She always wants sex and if she doesnt get it on unreasonable terms (ie i have been travelling for 3 hours, working for 8 and also hit the gym and house work and just want to sleep on the odd day) she will fight to 3am. About me and my girlfriend! Setup Type: Offline Installer / Full Standalone Setup. Not cool. im so torn and she suggested friends with benefits because we still show each other we care and shit by being friends at school and stuff, then casual hook ups and hanging out, basically dating. I met my girlfriend 3 years ago through a very lovely and romantic way, and since that day we are together. It is not your role in this case. Wow. Some people need to just help themselves. I dont know if it is a good thing to avoid that, I am almost sure it isnt. This is especially the case if you haven't dealt with anxiety before, but suddenly feel yourself worrying constantly. Sorry to say this but its just my own opinion. I almost lost my identity and values. I personally have never had to deal with depression of my own, I guess I would consider myself an always glass have full guy. Everything i could say would create a problem and everything was my fault. Do you guys fight all the time? One day I thought that she wanted to seek attention by saying that so I confronted her. I can know no one would have got solution. You say that they dont chose to become depressed no they dont but they can choose to help themselves. She might miss you. hello, I am this depressed girl, THIS MORNING WITH ALL YOUR WEIGHT TIED TO MY NECK AND YOUR DRAGGING ME DOWN, DRAGGING ME DOWN DRAGGING ME DOWN, DRAGGING ME DOWN I GOT . And it was bad enough that i was married at one time and my Ex wife cheated on me thinking that i was going to spend the rest of my life with her at the time. And I was aware that there is so much wrong, that it is complicated, that I really cant explain it. Im not really looking for advice with this, just getting something off my chest to the world. I am trying to help her but I could not help anymore than this.i could not concentrate on caring myself, could not eat or sleep well. I'm seeing shapes behind the curtain. Developing a strong therapeutic relationship with a clinician will afford you a much-needed opportunity to focus on yourself. It pisses me off. However when i asked her how shed feel if i was to hang out with other girls she said that i wasnt allowed to and that all i would do is want to have sex with them or at least have those intentions. I told her that i love her and i would never leave her, i forgave her cuz she lied to me, i told her that if i was with right now i would give her a hug and a kiss. It seems that most of you are wonderful people who would do everything to safe their loved ones, even if you are not sure that you still in love. Over the past year I dated someone that was unbalanced and going through a significant life transition. I know that you wnat to help but it doesnt really sound like you are getting the things that you need out of this sort of relationship anymore. The text is most likely a part of an image, then. "Relationships characterized by constant conflict, fighting, and lack of forgiveness are a recipe for disaster," Opperman says. She wont go to counselling nor will she take medication, she hurts herself knowing that it hurts me because it means iv failed once again to make her happy. I have thought about leaving, but I'm afraid it would devastate her, and I truthfully don't know that she would survive it. When I asked her what she thinks about the future, she said it wont be happiness and that it is impossible to be happy, and that she never imagine about our relationship anymore. Its extremely helpful to be able to read something from the person suffering from depression. Just because shes depressed, Ive got depressed. Since being in a relationship with her I feel like I've lost myself a little bit? Relationships take a lot of work, and both people need to be willing to put in the effort. Can we all agree that that sounds pretty amazing, and most definitely "good? Here are a few signs that the guy you're with is leaving you depressed. She did take medications she did try psychiatrist. (You're so tired) But you just can't sleep. So it can really, truly suck when you realize your relationship is dragging you down. But of course this isn't the case in an unhealthy relationship. Any thoughts or suggestions would be sincerely appreciated. Hugs. Some times its okay but those are only the times when things are easy. Shes suffered from depression throughout our relationship. To pull something or someone from a higher to a lower position: She dragged down the boxes from the attic. I have become very weary, weak and helpless toward her, every piece of support I give her is taken with offence, as an insult of her character or some other negative quam brewed inside her hyperactive mind. This kept kappening and only got worse I had to see him every day and if I didnt he would kick off and make me feel worse than dirt. You are in a relationship, you two must have had a reason to be with eachother. If you think youre a piece of poop, youre going to think others think that way too. And thats happiness isnt even happiness half the time, its just a less bad mood. We started dating a few months after the divorce and (I admit we could have been more responsible of our actions) she is now pregnant with our first child. You tend to put blame on you, stop doing this. Than it all started to fade, she had weekly outbursts after we met, we had a lovely weekend, then, the other day, she was always very depressed or even aggressive, treating herself very badly, being jealous on my friends, depreciating herself. I still dont know what to do and I feel terrible. Don't freak out if your goals are different. I hope you found your way out and ability to stay out. If you have trouble finding a professional in your area, dont be discouragedit may mean youll have better luck doing a Google search or asking for a referral from a trusted health professional, such as your doctor. Dear M, If you would like to find a mental health professional for your girlfriend, you can start finding therapists in your area by entering your city or ZIP code into the search field on this page: https://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html. Your love will develop as you both learn (with help) how to manage your feelings and youll both be closer having supported one another through this difficult process. I told her to leave him if he keeps bring her down. I don't have the same motivation and drive and care about myself like I did when I was single. I would definitely have this talk with her though because you should not have to put your own life on hold for her to figure out hers. Tristen, Armand, sounds like your girlfriends have real life boyfriends too. ! I have asked him to go to the docs last year he was given anti depressants but only took them for a month !!!! Software Full Name: Adobe Premiere Pro 2023. Dude, Thank you for reaching out. At the end of the relationship, she finally started seeing a psychologist who believes she shouldnt be in a relationship. Shes struggled to be present at her job, and isnt able to meet deadlines or pass things in on time. Youve asked some really important questions about yourself: Am I codependent? Whats my issue? What steps can or should I take? These questions are as important as they are complicated. Leave. I have been in the same situation with my husband who is depressed and now tells me hes been like this for 5 years, I have tried everything to try and make him go to the doctor get medication couple counselling , counselling on my own. I forgave her and forgot all of that. As men we dont have an option. She posts lots of hurtful things on her networks, she gets only and doesnt talk to me, shes alway leaving to something, she doesnt seem to care about things Ive got to say, shes no longer responsive or interested and shes been pretending fun, she doesnt seem to care at all anymore, and when I openly say how this has been hurting me and how things changed drastically, she always blames her condition, that she is really depressed and in mood swings, but she no longer let me be closer, she no longer wants to talk. i feel it but i but i just cant deal with being her friend in school and more outside, i cant do it in school. I myself am in a LDR with my girlfriend. The GoodTherapy.org Team is not qualified to offer professional advice, but we encourage you to reach out. But, my girlfriends depression and self loathing is disgusting. But you're dragging me down, down, down, down. She lacks motivation, and can struggle to get out of bed and finds it very difficult to engage with productive in her life, that I know she wants to do, but that she feels are fake and fleeting. I am not sure if Im still with her for love, for the codependency that has definitely developed or simply because I have been doing this so long I dont know any different, I have almost the exact same problem. Im on anti depressants myself but evidently those are for the weak that cant handle reality from her pointof view. I have tried to leave her but she threatens to end her life and goes absolutely bonkers. I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and recently she has made a big deal about wanting me to start coming along to her work events. These people are emotionally selfish they may not do it on purpose but they will take away everything that defines you and then you will be a empty shell . I am having the same issue and the text is most definitely NOT part of an image. So that he loves himself. It was a no-win situation for me. I experience the exact same thing you are talking about with my girlfriend for one year. 1992 - Video directed by Dani Jacobs. Im so tired now and giving her space and to myself too while figuring what I should do, to stay or leave? I am afraid that if I leave she will kill herself, she is completely obsessed with me and I cant escape. She says she feels okay when she clearly doesnt, when I give her a hug during this time, she tenses up, keeps shaking her head, and really hates herself for the way she is. Long distance, depressed girlfriend, university, feeling trapped, spending too much time and sacrificing too many things for the happiness of the other person in the relationship. And here's hoping you both can turn things around, and have a little more of that "good.". A healthy relationship will feel secure no matter what. We can all get through this. My boyfriend is like this, before I met him I was very depressed, self harmed, tried taking my own life but one day I met him I felt instantly happy I never felt this, however he left me for his ex girlfriend and I felt hopeless again. Every time I look at her pics, I am immediately in love again by seeing her smile but in person all I am thinking of is an exit strategy despite all the caring in the world. She has a comfortable home life but is in a constant state of conflict with her parents because of how she is treated.. Namely them trying to get her out on her own after graduating and trying to find a job. 3. And probably you wonder why I use past tense when I write. Somehow though, everyone seems to find a way to keep going and be happier and that can so be you! I am not an expert in the world of women but if there is anything I have learned it is that women feel a whole range of emotions and only show/tell a few (or none). WE ARE ALL A PRODUCT OF OUR ENVIRONMENTS. I fought with my boyfriend just to feel close to him for a while, to be able to talk. Hey i am in a LDR and i need your help my gf is also depressed, she doesnt tell the stuff she is going through, yea she tells me most of the things but not that. From past one to two years I came to know.Now it becomes severe.she suffers from anxiety , bipolar disorder. Its a positive sign that you seem to have a solid sense not only of where she is, but also where you are. Or maybe it's because your partner is jealous, or mean, or absent. Its one thing to be committed to someone and another to keep trying only to see they themselves keep failing back into the same pattern. I know thats going to be the final solution to all this, but is there anything anyone else could recommend? My girlfriend has jealousy along with paranoia, anxiety, post traumatic stress disorder and some depression. We had ups and downs for almost a year till i realised that she is alcoholic, and sadlly that the day we met (which i consider the most romantic day i had) she had bottle of wine hidden in her bag. You're so shallow. Its bad and I feel so trapped. I was acting like it all was my boyfriends fault, and I sometimes felt like this. Buy she apparently can go on a day out with her ex to hang out behind her parents back.s he cant even do that for me?? We are thinking of you and wishing you and your partner the very best! It bothers me a lot and Ive done all I could to understand. Things we fine for few months then i noticed our sex life taking the down hill road. From then onwards,my girl friend got suffering from depression slowly.but I was not knowing that and she also didnt share anything to me. Drag Me Down Lyrics [Verse 1: Harry] I've got fire for a heart, I'm not scared of the dark You've never seen it look so easy I got a river for a soul, and, baby, you're a boat Baby, you're my. She struggles to make friends and has isolated herself from the world. So are yours always casting concerned looks? The sad thing is when these ppl start showing their age and dont have their sh$t together. Even if youve had bad experiences with the Christian belief in the past, I suggest you to just try something. Good looking, good healthy cooking. The medications side effect is sex blocking, also with her off alcohol her mind cant deal with emotions as other people, so basicly we had like 3 times sex this year. She would start crying, shes wanted to leave home and then denied it the next day, I try to get her to talk about whats going on but she wont. Hell even the break up process reinforces their behavior. Your love will develop as you both learn (with help) how to manage your feelings and youll both be closer having supported one another through this difficult process, July 16th, 2016 at 5:42 AM Am I taking the wrong approach? Then she started talking that her family pressured her, about the meds and that she loved me, but had a really hard time. (All is Hell) Wow. Remember the love bit. She relies on me sitting down and talking sense to her, but I too feel like a caretaker, an older sibling or even a parent sometimes. I consider myself in recovery. You might also want to look for a caretakers support group. So I tried communicating a little more and making plans. I Got a Secret (feat. If you need them. my health is declining. Atlast I hate the word LOVE with cry. It works for me (I dont really have a hobby Im just at school all the time). SO IF YOU HANG AROUND PEOPLE LIKE THIS YOU WILL TAKE ON THEIR THINKING AND HABITS MAKE NO MISTAKE ABOUT IT. Also, Im placed as the general emotional support to everyone around me. Seems like a pattern, a thing to analyse better. But she just barely ever wants to talk, but thinks I should be always trying to talk to her even when she wont want too. This is a painful, complicated issue, and you deserve to have support as you work on figuring out what is best for you. Sounds to me like a bunch of spoiled princesses. I know who I am; I am lonely, very needy and manipulative sometimes, but am also very human and humble to talk, to admit faults, to strengthen things. I am very patient and always will be because in my mind we love each other and relationship may not be perfect sometimes but thats okay in my eyes. yesterday she said dating isnt working for either of us, the things that we need to change are things that cant chnange. How do I approach the situation without hurting her feelings/making her feel bad? When that happens, it may be time for some serious reflection. (Cue that sad trombone. From hair trends to relationship advice, our daily newsletter has everything you need to sound like a person whos on TikTok, even if you arent. Two nights ago after a weekend of not really talking that much as she was very down and I was super busy with work, we spoke on the phone and she told me she needed to be alone and deal with this, because her depression was the worst its ever been. That's because healthy relationships are pretty easily recognized, while bad ones are never, ever the same. Head up, somewhere we still exist and can grow back to be ourselves. I did every single thing that you guys have written here. If signs point to your partner, it's time to make a change. So both of you can benefit. My advise to you would be: Dont be too stressed out about it. I can not just do sex all the time Im not a robot. And he just feels like a failure and a burden onto everyone else to the point he has almost committed suicide twice. Shes 30 but she isnt mature enough to have any responsibility, I pity for it. She might even need help to physically move some of the bigger items out (like a couch). 2. But when you have a hobby, do make sure that you are always there for her when she needs you. Prior to start Adobe Premiere Pro 2023 Free Download, ensure the availability of the below listed system specifications. You sound like a great boyfriend supporting her an everything.But where us your relationship right now?I mean,have you become just a caretaker for her,a shoulder to cry on?Or have you guys maintained your relationship to a good enough level so far?This is very important because what happens once she gets over her depression depends a lot on this.If she only sees you like a caretaker,there isnt much of a role for you to play when she does conquer her depression!Please reflect on this and sort things out.I know how it feels to stand by someone and then be abandoned by that same person.I would hate for that to happen to anybody else,especially to someone who has been as supportive as youve been! In your head, you know it's no big deal. 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